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bardy
12-04-2006, 10:59 PM
Are any of you in a long distance relationship now? How far away are you and how often do you see each other?

I am moving to Fresno in January and I'm a bit nervous. I really don't want to go :( It's only a 2.5-3 hour drive from Sacramento but it's still kind of far. I hope to only be there for 6 months - 1 year though, and then hopefully both of us can transfer somewhere together (I dont really want to settle down in sacramento either, we honestly might end up in utah)

Any words of wisdom? Good or bad experiences?

BlueStar
12-04-2006, 11:01 PM
You're still in the same state and in the same time zone. Just 2.5-3 hours away is nothing to be nervous or concerned about.

neopryn
12-04-2006, 11:01 PM
reinstate the fucking delete option

bardy
12-04-2006, 11:02 PM
You think so? I am just worried we are going to get sick of driving that on the weekends. I haven't done anything like this before.

That and I don't think I am going to enjoy living in shithole Fresno. But not many people do which means I can make a name for myself there pretty easily since there arent a million other engineers there (like there are in sacramento). blah.

Trotskilicious
12-04-2006, 11:02 PM
I've had 12 internet girlfriends.

bardy
12-04-2006, 11:03 PM
how many of them did you meet (and meat)

waltermcphilp
12-04-2006, 11:07 PM
I've had 12 internet girlfriends.

were none of them fake?

Trotskilicious
12-04-2006, 11:07 PM
None. We were in love.

Trotskilicious
12-04-2006, 11:07 PM
were none of them fake?


None of them were fake.

Wait, there were two that were dudes.

bardy
12-04-2006, 11:08 PM
I had an internet relationship once when I was in middle school

Trotskilicious
12-04-2006, 11:09 PM
I have an internet relationship right now.

waltermcphilp
12-04-2006, 11:10 PM
is he or she a winner?

Katy Lied
12-04-2006, 11:11 PM
I have an internet relationship with bonnie. it's getting hot and heavy

Trotskilicious
12-04-2006, 11:11 PM
Yeah. She's 5-2 with a big ass, black hair, and really huge boobs. She won't share a pic though.

Karl Connor
12-04-2006, 11:11 PM
i was in a number of long distance relatonships. none of them worked out well but then again none of my relationships turn out well because i'm a piece of shit and nobody cares about me, so i'm not a good referencing point

but i personally believe it shouldn't hinder it too much if its only a few hours that's btw you two. actually it can help if you're the type that gets sick of other ppl easily

Katy Lied
12-04-2006, 11:12 PM
Yeah. She's 5-2 with a big ass, black hair, and really huge boobs. She won't share a pic though.
i immediately thought it was a negro

Trotskilicious
12-04-2006, 11:12 PM
I care about you Karl.

Trotskilicious
12-04-2006, 11:12 PM
i immediately thought it was a negro

Yeah. It's that chick from the Freek-a-Leek video.

waltermcphilp
12-04-2006, 11:13 PM
Yeah. She's 5-2 with a big ass, black hair, and really huge boobs. She won't share a pic though.

she sounds hott. id tap that. with your permission of course.

Karl Connor
12-04-2006, 11:13 PM
thank u dreampopgirl

ohnoitsbonnie
12-04-2006, 11:16 PM
I have an internet relationship with bonnie. it's getting hot and heavy
are you kidding? i hate you and your guts

Katy Lied
12-04-2006, 11:17 PM
haha i knew you'd like that one

waltermcphilp
12-04-2006, 11:17 PM
hey bonnie, whats cookin?

Nimrod's Son
12-04-2006, 11:22 PM
that's not really that far, bardy. yes, if a person is worth it and you're both comitted to it, you can make a long distance relationship work, even one much farther than that. you both have to be the type of people to make it work though, in so much as not looking for the instant gratification of a one night stand in the meantime

autumnNOCTURNE
12-04-2006, 11:35 PM
You're still in the same state and in the same time zone. Just 2.5-3 hours away is nothing to be nervous or concerned about.

It may be different that he's going from a . . . what would you call it? . . . "in town" relationship to one that's long distance.

I don't know. I've never experienced that specifically, but I would think that would complicate things some.

But, yeah, a 3 hour drive is not terribly LD relatioship-wise.

Nimrod's Son
12-04-2006, 11:36 PM
also he'll have the hookers to keep him occupied

ravenguy2000
12-04-2006, 11:38 PM
I did Kentucky to Connecticut for two years. It was shitty but worth it in the end.


oh man that sounds bad but i'm not going to edit it

waltermcphilp
12-04-2006, 11:47 PM
break it off now. just go slutty.

Trotskilicious
12-04-2006, 11:47 PM
I did Kentucky to Connecticut for two years.

Dude. You're a slut.

Effloresce
12-04-2006, 11:53 PM
Yeah. She's 5-2 with a big ass, black hair, and really huge boobs. She won't share a pic though.
I wanted to keep you fooled for as long as I could, sorry!

Nimrod's Son
12-04-2006, 11:55 PM
i just find it crazy that you're thinking about moving to utah with a guy you've been with all of what, two months?

agenda suicide
12-05-2006, 12:01 AM
I was in a long distance relationship for 6 months. around 925 miles apart. It was pretty crappy in the end. We still talk basically as much. We just didnt want to be together anymore because we knew we weren't going to see the other one for a reeeeeeeally long time and it was getting pretty pointless to attempt to be in a relationship.
A 3 hour drive sounds like nothing compared to 13. I know that would have helped me.

ohnoitsbonnie
12-05-2006, 12:03 AM
hey bonnie, whats cookin?
nothin'

Shapan
12-05-2006, 12:15 AM
long distance relationships are bad news bears. ive strayed away from them because they never work. and the few that do recquire lots of work, and you need to just be completely devoted. my bro and a couple of my best friends have been in love and separated, and those relationships have crumbled even though they were in love. i met this amazing girl at a wedding in san jose, and we had a great time together, completely hit it off. we both wouldve loved to keep it rolling but san jose is just too far. its a bummer too, because im rarely ever really into a girl.

im not saying it cant work, but it takes a lot of effort and be sure both of you guys are completely dedicated and for it.

Lucy Sky Diamonds
12-05-2006, 12:16 AM
I'll never do it again.
The first one only lived about 2 hours away from me, and he was a really good sport driving up every weekend to visit. About 6 or 8 months into the relationship he moved to my city so things were pretty sweet after that. In the end it was not the distance that killed the relationship, we just stopped being able to get along after 5 years.
The second one lived in New Jersey (7 hour drive, assuming the border isn't clogged). He would work 7 days on, 7 days off, so in theory we could have seen each other every other week or so. I was even beginning to apply to jobs down in Jersey and New York, but in the end he freaked out over the distance. :(

mercurial
12-05-2006, 12:18 AM
i just find it crazy that you're thinking about moving to utah with a guy you've been with all of what, two months?

yeah really ... what the hell?

ReadMusic
12-05-2006, 12:24 AM
long relationships don't work no matter how much you love someone.

spring
12-05-2006, 12:27 AM
well...i don't think it's too bad, brady, really.

the relationship i'm in was a long distance relationship the whole 2 and a half years it's been going on, and i thought it wasn't too difficult. we weren't that far from each other either, about an hour and a half drive/bus ride. the thing is... now he's halfway across the world and plans on being there for a year or so. he didn't want me to go with him, and i said i'll wait and be here when he comes back. i'll let you know how that goes... your guess is as good as mine at this point.

Trotskilicious
12-05-2006, 12:28 AM
man this thread was awesome until it got all serious

Effloresce
12-05-2006, 12:35 AM
man this thread was awesome until it got all serious
They forgot about personal responsibility.

Shapan
12-05-2006, 12:36 AM
sorry guys..

but did you get head

Nimrod's Son
12-05-2006, 12:37 AM
They forgot about personal responsibility.
why are you sucking trotsky's dick

Shapan
12-05-2006, 12:38 AM
someone's gotta do it

redbull
12-05-2006, 12:39 AM
something like 500 miles. she's in pennsylvania, I'm in Illinois. We see each other maybe once every few months...and in the summer.

wHATcOLOR
12-05-2006, 12:39 AM
i did it when i was in college. at the time i really felt it was worth it. i worked in this store in the student center and there was this one cute girl who came in every day and it was so clear that if i just said hello it would be on. but i never said hello because i was in the long distance relationship. i regret that. i should have not been in that long distance relationship and should have said hello to that girl.

Trotskilicious
12-05-2006, 12:39 AM
I'd like it if it was a hot grrrrl.

girls like boys
12-05-2006, 12:46 AM
i'm in one. 6.5 hour distance. we've been together since last aug 15th, and a few weeks ago we were both really stressed and had a few problems that we wouldn't have had if we were together, but we've worked through them, and are good now. i think we see eachother about every 4 weeks. it works because we both have plans to be with eachother pretty soon aka graduating in may heh! we talk on aim and the phone all the time so it works pretty well.

obscured01
12-05-2006, 12:47 AM
<font color="dab9ea">We've been more or less long distance since he graduated high school. We were together 2 years before he graduated and left for Tulane in N.O. then he came back for a semester, and then transferred to UTA in Arlington, which is around 5.5hrs from Lubbock. He's in Ft. Worth now after graduation, and I'm still in Lubbock finishing my degree and we've been doing the long distance thing for I guess 6 years now.

We see eachother probably 2-3 times a month, sometimes more, if there's holidays etc. in the month, and before he graduated he came home for every summer. We talk several times a day and usually for a really long time (2-3hrs split up between 2-3 phone calls). I dunno. We were both really committed to making it work and we have. So it can totally be done if you both want it to work.

We only have 6 more months and we'll finally be done with this long distance crap.

</font>

Nimrod's Son
12-05-2006, 12:48 AM
<font color="dab9ea">We talk several times a day and usually for a really long time (2-3hrs split up between 2-3 phone calls). I dunno.

</font>
no offense but i would hang myself

Trotskilicious
12-05-2006, 12:50 AM
lol only six more months

why why why why why!?

obscured01
12-05-2006, 12:51 AM
<font color="dab9ea">Yeah I dunno. I've heard that before. It's not like I make him talk that long or anything. He's kind of a chatterbox and so am I so I guess it's hard to get us both to shut up. It works out fine for us though. We don't do it all the time, but that's usually the norm. Tonight we only spoke for around 45min because I had a ginormous amount of hw. Which I need to get back to :(</font>

Effloresce
12-05-2006, 12:51 AM
why are you sucking trotsky's dick
I'm not, we just both happen to find that funny. And I'm sick of fighting with him over every little thing on here.

obscured01
12-05-2006, 12:52 AM
<font color="dab9ea">6 more months is nothing after 6 years of this.</font>

Lucy Sky Diamonds
12-05-2006, 12:55 AM
I hate talking on the phone, I think this is a big reason why the last relationship went to shit. He'd call me and I'd be busy, and it wasn't very productive. I like how the last dude I dated the extent of our phone calls were typically, "Dinner, my place 7pm. I'm making fettucini alfredo, can you handle finding a decent bottle of wine?"

girls like boys
12-05-2006, 01:19 AM
yeah a lot of times it's the short 15min convos that are the best. quick little pick me up stuff yay

Ever
12-05-2006, 01:22 AM
I had one once and my best friend had the same one and she was a friend of a friends and it all kinda went crazy and things didn't work out for anyone and in the end it seemed as though it was all bred by boredom and had no value at the slightest.

But now that it's a memory it's quite a bittersweet thing to think about. I still haven't learnt from my mistakes then though, I don't think.

Trotskilicious
12-05-2006, 01:24 AM
<font color="dab9ea">6 more months is nothing after 6 years of this.</font>

sounds like a great big waste of time

alisonmonster
12-05-2006, 01:26 AM
<font color="dab9ea">6 more months is nothing after 6 years of this.</font>

do you think it'll be very strange and things will change drastically (i mean how you guys are towards each other, besides the marraige stuff) when you go from never seeing each other to constantly seeing each other? I did the long distance thing for awhile, but not too long, and even then things were much different.

bardy
12-05-2006, 01:30 AM
i just find it crazy that you're thinking about moving to utah with a guy you've been with all of what, two months?

yeah, not very long, four months. I'm not moving with him tomorrow. This is at least a year down the road and why can't I be optimistic about things?

obscured01
12-05-2006, 01:54 AM
do you think it'll be very strange and things will change drastically (i mean how you guys are towards each other, besides the marraige stuff) when you go from never seeing each other to constantly seeing each other? I did the long distance thing for awhile, but not too long, and even then things were much different.

<font color="dab9ea">I don't know. I have worried that perhaps we'll both be scrambling to get out of the house for some alone time hah. I don't know though, I'm not stressing over it. We spent 2 years together constantly, and then after that, twice a month plus a month at christmas, then spring break then a full summer for 5 years. I'm sure we'll be fine, we'll probably just have to have certain times we have our own space and time, as I'm sure we'll need it. It's not like we don't know eachother though, and our manerisms and faults etc. you know? But I do know what you're saying... I just don't think it will be a big issue. </font>

alisonmonster
12-05-2006, 02:21 AM
oh i didn't know you had spent two years together all the time either. Yeah, i just think it would be a huge change (personal space and stuff). I'm moving in with my boyfriend next year, so i'm starting to think about having enough room so we don't get on each others nerves. Sometimes its nice having a lot of space for yourself.

spring
12-05-2006, 02:27 AM
yeah, not very long, four months. I'm not moving with him tomorrow. This is at least a year down the road and why can't I be optimistic about things?


i give you permission to be optimistic about this thing.

Karl Connor
12-05-2006, 02:35 AM
i'm starting to think about having enough room so we don't get on each others nerves. Sometimes its nice having a lot of space for yourself.

that would be a huge issue with me. i'm big on sitting in my room and working/wasting time. and i dont see how i could ever do that living with an s/o

but then again i'm a hermit to begin with

murgle
12-05-2006, 02:37 AM
Yeah. my boyfriend and I did the long distance thing (about 2.5-3 hours, too) for the 2 semesters I was down at UT. I usually drove up there on the weekends and the drive wasn't that. He'd occasionally come down to Austin, but seeing as I was in a dorm room with a roomate and a twin sized bed, we'd usually have to get a hotel room so we wouldn't have to sleep on the damn floor. But if I'd had an apartment, we probably would've split up the driving. Once, I wasn't going to head up there because his dad was in town and our plans fell through, but he drove down, picked me up, and drove back. hah. Long day. Twice, he even drove down just to spend the day and then drove home before work that night.

It was stressful at times, but we talked on the phone a lot (and we still do, especially since our damn work schedules are the exact opposite of each others) and we got through it. We've been together for over 3 years now.

murgle
12-05-2006, 02:44 AM
that would be a huge issue with me. i'm big on sitting in my room and working/wasting time. and i dont see how i could ever do that living with an s/o


My boyfriend and I really need our own space. We lived together for about 6 months, but he got a job 40 miles away, so he moved to be closer to work. When we move in together again, we're going to need to get a fucking HOUSE so that each of us can have 2 rooms and our own bathrooms if we wanted them (he wants his own office and bathroom space so he can make them as messy as he wants without feeling guilty). haha.

spring
12-05-2006, 02:57 AM
Twice, he even drove down just to spend the day and then drove home before work that night.



that's really sweet.






and i'm not jealous at all :p

Dead
12-05-2006, 02:59 AM
Yeah. She's 5-2 with a big ass, black hair, and really huge boobs. She won't share a pic though.
36-24-36? only if she's 5'3!

murgle
12-05-2006, 03:01 AM
that's really sweet.






and i'm not jealous at all :p



:)

julie
12-05-2006, 03:10 AM
don't move to utah. it's a vortex of suck.

as far as the long distance thing, the 3 hour drive will only be a big deal if you make it one. if you dedicate weekends to visit each other and really stick to it it shouldn't be a problem. make a pact that you will take turns going to visit each other and if someone starts not wanting to travel, reevaluate the relationship.

chris and i made our relationship work but i think for most people distance kills the relationship.

TuralyonW3
12-05-2006, 03:53 AM
I live in Austin/Houston and my GF lives in Shreveport, LA, where I used to live for a few years. We've been together quite a while, we see each other about every 3 weeks, and talk every day on the phone. It's worked out great.

agenda suicide
12-05-2006, 04:23 AM
if I could have seen nathan around once a month, it probably would have worked out. but it was pretty pointless since we NEVER saw eachother.
I still really wish I could have had a shot at a normal relationship with him.

Geek USA
12-05-2006, 04:33 AM
i was in a number of long distance relatonships. none of them worked out well but then again none of my relationships turn out well because i'm a piece of shit and nobody cares about me, so i'm not a good referencing point

but i personally believe it shouldn't hinder it too much if its only a few hours that's btw you two. actually it can help if you're the type that gets sick of other ppl easily


i love you.

RopeyLopey
12-05-2006, 04:59 AM
hey bardy so you know this guy like 2-3 months and you sound like planning to live with him forever (going together to Utah)? Holy fuck, you're pretty quick!

Orenthal James
12-05-2006, 05:27 AM
she spent her formative years watching Michael and Marcus Vick scramble around; she knows nothing but quick

Karl Connor
12-05-2006, 11:20 AM
fast girl

Super Cres
12-05-2006, 12:09 PM
I had a bad experience, the stupid cunt cheated on me.

rocksteady
12-05-2006, 12:26 PM
<img src="http://b.casalemedia.com/V2/48700/58937/im_450x350.gif">

mpp
12-05-2006, 12:33 PM
women and men think so differently

it's just absurd

phaedrus
12-05-2006, 01:09 PM
I'm moving in with my boyfriend next year, so i'm starting to think about having enough room so we don't get on each others nerves. Sometimes its nice having a lot of space for yourself.

heh, i'm dealing with the exact same issue right now, but i'm moving in with the same girl i had a long distance relationship with for a year and a half.

we were both in college at the time we did the long distance thing. it was about a 3 hr distance, and we'd see each other once every three weeks. it wasn't just the distance that eventually drove us apart though. after two years she moved back to my city we got back together and have been happy ever since.

i know it's cheesy, but we definitely grew a lot when we were apart and came to realize how much we meant to each other. when you have a long distance relationship things are so much more difficult. it's harder to resolve conflicts and without a LOT of trust, things can go sour pretty quickly.

bardy, i hope you're both confortable on the phone. i say the long distance thing is always worth a shot, so long as you have the end in mind.

even now, i'm away every summer for 3 to 5 weeks at a time and we only talk a few times over the course of my field trips. my girlfriend just views it as time for herself to do the things she wants to do without me. it's nice to have that kind of space every once and a while to focus on things other than your relationship. it's not so hard to be apart when you know it's only temporary.

bardy
12-05-2006, 01:34 PM
it's not so hard to be apart when you know it's only temporary.

That's where the whole Utah thing comes into play. It just makes it easier on me if I think there is some resoluation to it in the near future.

Thanks for the advice, everyone. I think it will work out if it's supposed to. I plan on visting him and he said he is driving down every weekend to see me until I tell him to leave me alone.

pale blue eyes
12-05-2006, 04:24 PM
Good luck with it.

bardy
12-05-2006, 05:08 PM
yeah so I am freaking out about this today, I just mailed in my deposit for an apartment in fresno. ugh this sucks I'm about to start crying and stomping around the office but of course I wont actually do it.

Esty
12-05-2006, 05:13 PM
I thought this thread was about me and you brady. I'm very disappointed.

spring
12-05-2006, 07:05 PM
bardy, i hope you're both confortable on the phone. i say the long distance thing is always worth a shot, so long as you have the end in mind.



see, this is what worries me.

bardy
12-05-2006, 07:20 PM
comfortable on the phoen or the end?

spring
12-05-2006, 07:24 PM
both.

Cell Tech
12-05-2006, 08:04 PM
twilightfadez to thread

Cell Tech
12-05-2006, 08:04 PM
blistered avalon

bardy
12-05-2006, 08:28 PM
both.


you guys dont have plans to be together sometime in the future?

thats what broke up my roommate and her long term boyfriend

they were so amazing together but their lives just wernt colliding at any time

Shapan
12-05-2006, 08:30 PM
you'll be ok bardy, you seem pretty dedicated to making it work and as long as you have that all will be well.

Nimrod's Son
12-05-2006, 08:31 PM
also you have big tits. if it doesn't work out, big whoop you'll meet a new guy in about 15 minutes

Shapan
12-05-2006, 08:33 PM
another good point

girls like boys
12-05-2006, 09:58 PM
whatever! boobs may bring them to the relationship but a nice ass keeps them in it!

Nimrod's Son
12-05-2006, 10:19 PM
whatever! boobs may bring them to the relationship but a nice ass keeps them in it!
no a chick who isn't a fucking shrew keeps them in it

girls like boys
12-05-2006, 10:20 PM
don't have to tell me that. i'm not single.

Nimrod's Son
12-05-2006, 10:22 PM
don't have to tell me that. i'm not single.
we were talking about intelligent guys who see their chicks more than once per month

girls like boys
12-05-2006, 10:23 PM
he's getting a B.S. in MRI, and its probably tougher in long distance because it can't just be about sex then. obviously i'm a great girlfriend.

Nimrod's Son
12-05-2006, 10:26 PM
well he's most likely having sex. don't be naive.

girls like boys
12-05-2006, 10:31 PM
i'm not trying to be naive. there's no reason for him to cheat, and i know him well enough to be able to tell if he was. plus he studies too much

with enough trust, chemistry, and dedication it can work for years.

spring
12-05-2006, 10:31 PM
you guys dont have plans to be together sometime in the future?

thats what broke up my roommate and her long term boyfriend

they were so amazing together but their lives just wernt colliding at any time

kinda hard to be making any plans for the future when his typical line is "we'll see" and mine is "if i live that long".



gahhh.

Shapan
12-06-2006, 12:42 AM
You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Nimrod's Son again.

girls like boys
12-06-2006, 12:45 AM
shapan you look kinda pathetic there.

Shapan
12-06-2006, 02:04 AM
you look kinda pathetic there.

whatever! boobs may bring them to the relationship but a nice ass keeps them in it!

its not a big secret that i think nimrod is generally retarded, but the last couple of posts hes had in this thread have made me chuckle.

bardy
12-06-2006, 02:14 AM
kinda hard to be making any plans for the future when his typical line is "we'll see" and mine is "if i live that long".



gahhh.


what! my boyfriend always says "oh I'll probably be dead by then"

but he still makes plans for the future but he's probably just humoring me

wHATcOLOR
12-06-2006, 02:38 AM
on one day we will each in this thread be dead. best day ever

Irridescent Fairysex
12-06-2006, 03:10 PM
Love from afar, happinnes for all four.

bardy
12-06-2006, 10:13 PM
is it bad that part of me thinks it would be easier to just stop talking to him right now and then just start over again when I move? His presence in my life is making this move so much harder than it would be otherwise. I am trying not to become resentful.

Trotskilicious
12-06-2006, 10:15 PM
break up with him, meet someone new.

RopeyLopey
12-06-2006, 10:16 PM
on one day we will each in this thread be dead. best day ever

ropey's moo gu gai pan is to die for!!
I am glad you told me that before we died. Now I can die in peace, indeed.

Karl Connor
12-06-2006, 10:17 PM
do whatever you want. he's not your fiance or anything

bardy
12-06-2006, 10:17 PM
break up with him, meet someone new.


I am scared I wont be able to meet someone comparable

RopeyLopey
12-06-2006, 10:20 PM
I am scared I wont be able to meet someone comparablewho doesn't blow 2 grand a night and doesn't fuck whores when he has a solid girlfriend at home?

yeah, that would be really difficult, I can imagine.

bardy
12-06-2006, 10:21 PM
it was 1200 and he didnt fuck any whores. he is weirdly infatuated with me, he offered to leave work today to get me a heating pad and some of that icyhot stuff.

Karl Connor
12-06-2006, 10:22 PM
email him a link to this thread

RopeyLopey
12-06-2006, 10:23 PM
it was 1200 and he didnt fuck any whores. he is weirdly infatuated with me, he offered to leave work today to get me a heating pad and some of that icyhot stuff.he still feels a guilt, that's all.
I also thought you're looking for a man, not a servant.


I wierdly like pulling you like this.

Trotskilicious
12-06-2006, 10:23 PM
I am scared I wont be able to meet someone comparable

that's a bunch of b.s.

There are plenty of fish in the sea. As long as you aren't fat and socially awkward.

bardy
12-06-2006, 10:25 PM
I am jealous of him because he has a job he likes and he can settle into it if he wants, he's good at it, people look to him when they need help. he's set and he can just coast. he has his whole work future planned out ahead of him if he wants it. and that really bothers me and I want that so much. I just want someone to tell me what I'm really good at and I want to do that for the rest of my life.

Nimrod's Son
12-06-2006, 10:26 PM
I am scared I wont be able to meet someone comparable
ok, this quote right here tells me you're settling for the "best you can find" and not truly what you want, as if you have a minimum level of standard and he has met those criteria

you might as well cut him loose now because that's not love right there

bardy
12-06-2006, 10:26 PM
he still feels a guilt, that's all.
I also thought you're looking for a man, not a servant.


I wierdly like pulling you like this.


you guys actually got me to ask him if I could see his credit card statement, he offered but I didn't really think it was that necessary

Karl Connor
12-06-2006, 10:27 PM
wish i had your problems

Trotskilicious
12-06-2006, 10:28 PM
listen to Mike he actually sounds like he knows what he's talking about FOR ONCE.

RopeyLopey
12-06-2006, 10:28 PM
I am jealous of him because he has a job he likes and he can settle into it if he wants, he's good at it, people look to him when they need help. he's set and he can just coast. he has his whole work future planned out ahead of him if he wants it. and that really bothers me and I want that so much. I just want someone to tell me what I'm really good at and I want to do that for the rest of my life.
why do you think he wants you?

Andy /
12-06-2006, 10:29 PM
I am scared I wont be able to meet someone comparable

Ugh.

If you'd have been together for years then this is a valid statement.

You haven't. As much as you might think otherwise because you're still in the honeymoon phase where everything is all roses and teddy bears and cuddles and :hurl: , you BARELY KNOW THE FUCKING DUDE. YOU'VE BEEN DATING FOR A FEW MONTHS.

If you're this insecure about it now, it will not get any better for you. And seeing how needy and girly you are on here, you're going to drive both him and you insane trying to maintain a relationship over a distance.

Nimrod's Son
12-06-2006, 10:30 PM
listen to Mike he actually sounds like he knows what he's talking about FOR ONCE.
i am the relationship king

i am other kings as well though

Mayfuck
12-06-2006, 10:30 PM
pretty sure you're with him cause he showers you with attention. a lot of girls are in relationships with the guys they're in because those guys showed them the most attention not that they're necessarily good on their own.

Trotskilicious
12-06-2006, 10:30 PM
king of hating the blind, for one

Andy /
12-06-2006, 10:32 PM
And now I'm just wondering if bardy is playing this thread out for her own amusement. She likes to do that now, it seems.

Nimrod's Son
12-06-2006, 10:32 PM
pretty sure you're with him cause he showers you with attention. a lot of girls are in relationships with the guys they're in because those guys showed them the most attention not that they're necessarily good on their own.
i cannot disagree more with this statement

Mayfuck
12-06-2006, 10:33 PM
Ugh.

If you'd have been together for years then this is a valid statement.

You haven't. As much as you might think otherwise because you're still in the honeymoon phase where everything is all roses and teddy bears and cuddles and :hurl: , you BARELY KNOW THE FUCKING DUDE. YOU'VE BEEN DATING FOR A FEW MONTHS.

If you're this insecure about it now, it will not get any better for you. And seeing how needy and girly you are on here, you're going to drive both him and you insane trying to maintain a relationship over a distance.

brady's not the type to be in love with a guy, she's more in love with the fantasy of a rich husband, white picketed fenced house and the 2.5 children.

Trotskilicious
12-06-2006, 10:33 PM
Am I the only one who sees a cry for help in Mayfuck's posts?

talk about bitter.

bardy
12-06-2006, 10:34 PM
yeah I don't know, I am just insanely stressed out right now and I shouldnt be taking myself seriously right now

Nimrod's Son
12-06-2006, 10:34 PM
Am I the only one who sees a cry for help in Mayfuck's posts?

talk about bitter.
he was a .5 child once

RopeyLopey
12-06-2006, 10:35 PM
brady's not the type to be in love with a guy, she's more in love with the fantasy of a rich husband, white picketed fenced house and the 2.5 children.I always admire how well you get to know people over internet. I wish I had your skills, really.

Trotskilicious
12-06-2006, 10:35 PM
i was more talking about the post previous to that which sounds like he resents the fact that some people get lots of attention while he gets none

but that's because he's bitter, hateful, and cruel.

Mayfuck
12-06-2006, 10:39 PM
No I think what I said is generally true as the accepted social custom is that the guy is always the one to go up to the girl and talk to her. And you can't deny there are girls like the ones I described and I'm pretty sure Brady is one of those girls.

Karl Connor
12-06-2006, 10:41 PM
but that's because he's bitter, hateful, and cruel.

http://i72.photobucket.com/albums/i198/Randall_Sandell/dawsownedpm5.jpg

Mayfuck
12-06-2006, 10:43 PM
http://i72.photobucket.com/albums/i198/Randall_Sandell/dawsownedpm5.jpg

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v176/stavnnf/favre.jpg

obscured01
12-06-2006, 11:05 PM
that's a bunch of b.s.

There are plenty of fish in the sea. As long as you aren't fat and socially awkward.

<font color="dab9ea">Fat and socially awkward people can totally find people too. Granted they're usually other fat and somewhat socially awkward people, but still.</font>

Nimrod's Son
12-06-2006, 11:10 PM
No I think what I said is generally true as the accepted social custom is that the guy is always the one to go up to the girl and talk to her. And you can't deny there are girls like the ones I described and I'm pretty sure Brady is one of those girls.
if anything it's more likely that she just left everyone and everything she'd ever known and moved 3000 miles across country and has connected with one person and now she's about to move again into the unknown and might be reluctant to give up the only person with whom she's connected

Mayfuck
12-06-2006, 11:15 PM
nah she's a ditz.

Karl Connor
12-06-2006, 11:17 PM
oh. well that settles everything

Cell Tech
12-06-2006, 11:22 PM
you should take these guys advice so you can be where they are today when youre their age

Cell Tech
12-06-2006, 11:23 PM
/didnt read thread

Karl Connor
12-06-2006, 11:25 PM
should could only hope to be as high up as i am on the food chain

neopryn
12-06-2006, 11:26 PM
i could beat up your boyfriend

spring
12-06-2006, 11:33 PM
if anything it's more likely that she just left everyone and everything she'd ever known and moved 3000 miles across country and has connected with one person and now she's about to move again into the unknown and might be reluctant to give up the only person with whom she's connected


this is the truth. listen to him, bardy.


mike, can you now please analyze my problem too :D

Nimrod's Son
12-06-2006, 11:47 PM
this is the truth. listen to him, bardy.


mike, can you now please analyze my problem too :D
You have a year to really figure out what it is you want. If it's not him, you need to move on and for sure tell him when he's away, so that he can have that apart time to move on as well.

There's really no advice to give you that you don't already know.

spring
12-07-2006, 12:28 AM
i know. i kinda figured that out myself.

i wrote him a letter today and i asked if he left me behind so that he'd lose me. maybe he'll answer honestly and then we'll know.

Cell Tech
12-07-2006, 12:30 AM
:cry:

spring
12-07-2006, 12:35 AM
shut up. you live with your girlfriend.

girls like boys
12-07-2006, 12:48 AM
i think, with a guy willing to do things like wash your car for you and take off work just to get you a heating pad, he sounds like hes really dedicated to YOU. as long as you both keep this in mind over the distance and keep up with eachother through the phone and/or email or aim, it can work, but that foundation of trust, affection, and dedication to the relationship has to stay strong.
i just had to keep reminding myself what it was like to be with someone who only had to hug you to totally clear your mind of everything worrying you whenever i would get frustrated over gay shit like him not returning an email or three. it's really hard to get perspective on petty small things when you miss someone so much, but you have to keep reminding yourself that what you guys have is special and that he probably feels just as much in the relationship as you do.

Nimrod's Son
12-07-2006, 12:49 AM
i think, with a guy willing to do things like wash your car for you and take off work just to get you a heating pad, he sounds like hes really dedicated to YOU. as long as you both keep this in mind over the distance and keep up with eachother through the phone and/or email or aim, it can work, but that foundation of trust, affection, and dedication to the relationship has to stay strong.
i just had to keep reminding myself what it was like to be with someone who only had to hug you to totally clear your mind of everything worrying you whenever i would get frustrated over gay shit like him not returning an email or three. it's really hard to get perspective on petty small things when you miss someone so much, but you have to keep reminding yourself that what you guys have is special and that he probably feels just as much in the relationship as you do.
you ninny he does that shit because of the guilt from banging hookers

Trotskilicious
12-07-2006, 12:52 AM
man why do you hate kristen so much jesus christ

girls like boys
12-07-2006, 12:53 AM
guess bardy should get tested then.

but i doubt it! guys like him totally fall for a girl.

Nimrod's Son
12-07-2006, 12:56 AM
man why do you hate kristen so much jesus christ
yeah, you're right, using the word ninny crossed the line, i apologize

Nimrod's Son
12-07-2006, 12:56 AM
guys like him totally fall for a girl.
every night.

spring
12-07-2006, 12:56 AM
fuck. that's kristin?


man, i'm slow.

scouse_dave
12-08-2006, 08:35 PM
Hey Bardy, didn't he think it was a bit weird that you wanted to look at his credit card statement?

I think I'd be seriously concerned if any gf of mine asked to see that stuff.

Nimrod's Son
12-08-2006, 08:46 PM
Hey Bardy, didn't he think it was a bit weird that you wanted to look at his credit card statement?

I think I'd be seriously concerned if any gf of mine asked to see that stuff.
this whole thread is a clusterfuck

spring
12-08-2006, 08:52 PM
nimrod, you don't use aim anymore?

bardy
12-08-2006, 10:08 PM
Hey Bardy, didn't he think it was a bit weird that you wanted to look at his credit card statement?

I think I'd be seriously concerned if any gf of mine asked to see that stuff.


nah I just kept teasing him about going to a whore house and he kept saying he didnt go and I was like well where did that 1200 dollars go then? and he would tell me and I'm yeah right let's see the bank statement. but it was all pretty lighthearted, he knew I was only half serious.

Nimrod's Son
12-08-2006, 10:09 PM
nimrod, you don't use aim anymore?
sometimes

spring
12-08-2006, 10:18 PM
then you probably have me blocked or something because i can't add you

yo soy el mejor
12-08-2006, 10:20 PM
brady is so fat all her relationships are long distance!

bardy
12-08-2006, 10:21 PM
I weighed myself at work today!! I have lost 4 pounds. still 40 more to go guys!