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wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 01:20 PM
bo dude

Elvis The Fat Years
10-02-2006, 01:21 PM
must.... stay...... ahead....

Toby
10-02-2006, 01:23 PM
i made plans on saturday night to go to the casino last night. When i told my girlf about it she flipped out because she hadn't seen me since friday morning. i told her i wasn't backing out because i wouldn't want any of my friends backing out on me. She said she didn't give a fuck and should choose her over my friends, but i still chose the casino anyway.

was i in the wrong? because she pretty much hates me now

yo soy el mejor
10-02-2006, 01:24 PM
would you rather die in a drag race or a firefight?

Quiet CD
10-02-2006, 01:24 PM
show us your bewbs

Elvis The Fat Years
10-02-2006, 01:24 PM
Look, I'm very busy. Why don't you take the kids and go back to the clubhouse?



























http://img55.imageshack.us/img55/8944/abegl6.jpg

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 01:28 PM
toby - it sounds to me like your girlfriend is being childish and insecure. i'd stand my ground.

yo soy el mejor - neither are very appealing to me, but i'll say drag race, as the chances for instantaneous death are higher i'd imagine

Toby
10-02-2006, 01:30 PM
thanks jesse...i feel the same way. im not backing down. im a loyal friend goddamnit.

Elvis The Fat Years
10-02-2006, 01:31 PM
tell that bitch less starch on the next load.

Toby
10-02-2006, 01:35 PM
she likes to think im dependent on her, which is not the case at all. Sometimes i have to pull the ole "earth to kiley" trick to get her to open her eyes!

Grumble
10-02-2006, 01:35 PM
i finally joind myspace earlier, but so far I haven't been inundated with friend requests as I expected! In fact, no one has invited me so far except for a couple of guys trying to promote their bands. Is this just the calm before the storm??

Toby
10-02-2006, 01:36 PM
she probably feels guilty about something she did on friday night! :eek:

i bet she gave afroman head or something :erm:

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 01:41 PM
she likes to think im dependent on her, which is not the case at all. Sometimes i have to pull the ole "earth to kiley" trick to get her to open her eyes!


this post is great

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 01:42 PM
i finally joind myspace earlier, but so far I haven't been inundated with friend requests as I expected! In fact, no one has invited me so far except for a couple of guys trying to promote their bands. Is this just the calm before the storm??


i'm no expert, but calm before the storm sounds about right to me

waltermcphilp
10-02-2006, 01:46 PM
i'm no expert, but calm before the storm sounds about right to me

if you were an expert, what sort what you be? would you use your powers for evil?

alisonmonster
10-02-2006, 01:49 PM
do you have any hobbies?

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 01:52 PM
if you were an expert, what sort what you be? would you use your powers for evil?


this is starting to get ridiculous and i'm second guessing the wisdom in making this thread

Irridescent Fairysex
10-02-2006, 01:56 PM
do you have any hobbits?

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 01:58 PM
do you have any hobbies?

the sad truth is i spend the bulk of my free time, which isn't much, on the internet, and most of that here. i spend almost all of my time at work. i play guitar sometimes, but often i get frustrated and put it down. i try to write songs every once in a great while. i really like writing, i haven't really written anything since a short story, well over a year ago, maybe longer. i used to play ice hockey a lot but currently i don't because of time and a knee injury. i like to read, but don't do this very often. i don't play videogames, and the only shows i watch from tv i usually download or buy the dvd. i've got some friends who have started companies, and we've been refining an idea of mine, but i haven't really committed to it yet. this is pretty sad.

yo soy el mejor
10-02-2006, 01:59 PM
you sound like a really cool dude to hang out with.

alisonmonster
10-02-2006, 02:06 PM
the sad truth is i spend the bulk of my free time, which isn't much, on the internet, and most of that here. i spend almost all of my time at work. i play guitar sometimes, but often i get frustrated and put it down. i try to write songs every once in a great while. i really like writing, i haven't really written anything since a short story, well over a year ago, maybe longer. i used to play ice hockey a lot but currently i don't because of time and a knee injury. i like to read, but don't do this very often. i don't play videogames, and the only shows i watch from tv i usually download or buy the dvd. i've got some friends who have started companies, and we've been refining an idea of mine, but i haven't really committed to it yet. this is pretty sad.

thats not bad - i was wondering since i've never seen you post about any hobbies or anything. there's a lot of perks to starting up your own business - you should totally go for it.

who was the worst person you've ever worked with/for?

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 02:13 PM
yeah, pretty said, i should get some real hobbies. the whole thing with the business idea is that it could very easily flop, and i don't have enough belief in the idea to just put it on the line and take the risk. i've got a comfortable job now and there will be other entrepreneurial ideas down the line with these friends..

oh! the worst job i ever had (i know that's not quite what you asked), was conducting this psychology study for a phd candidate at stanford. i got the job through an exgf's mom.. i would have to go to busy places and approach someone and tell them i was doing a marketing study on ballpoint pens.. i had 5 different pens in my hand, and i'd tell them to choose whichever one they liked the best. once they picked, every fourth person, i'd have to then take that pen away from them and say i'm sorry, taht's my last one, take this one instead. and then they'd do this quick survey that collected some demographic info and then they rated their satisfaction with the pen in various ways, then they get to keep the pen.

the theory was that people with higher incomes places a higher value on choice in this situation, meaning they got more upset if i took away their pen, whereas people with lower incomes saw a pen as a pen and were cool with getting a free pen. it totally sucked.

the person i was working for however was awesome.

the worst person i worked for was probably a manager at a restaurant when i was a waitor. nothing particularly colorful to talk about, he just completely sucked

mistle
10-02-2006, 02:14 PM
would you like to have sex with me?

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 02:17 PM
no

mistle
10-02-2006, 02:17 PM
fuck you

waltermcphilp
10-02-2006, 02:19 PM
lollercaust

alisonmonster
10-02-2006, 02:20 PM
man i'd hate going up to people unsolicited - i'd feel bad for bothering them. And yeah, i'd take a job risk while you're young and you don't have family or anything.

what else can i ask? Do you ever crave anything?

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 03:10 PM
man i'd hate going up to people unsolicited - i'd feel bad for bothering them. And yeah, i'd take a job risk while you're young and you don't have family or anything.

what else can i ask? Do you ever crave anything?


yeah but there's smart risks and there are iffy risks. i'm not going to take a risk on an idea unless i really believe in it.

crave? sometimes.. if i haven't had something salty in a while, i crave that. occasionally i will crave candy. it sounds creepy when put in these terms, but i suppose you could say i 'crave' certain girls

cork_soaker
10-02-2006, 03:23 PM
i finally joind myspace earlier
no one has invited me so far except for a couple of guys trying to promote their bands.
Is this just the calm before the storm??


that's pretty much what happens on myspace.

Geek USA
10-02-2006, 03:29 PM
do you like pina coladas?

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 03:31 PM
yeah

Geek USA
10-02-2006, 03:35 PM
and getting caught in the rain?

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 03:36 PM
if i don't have leather shoes or a leather coat on, and if i don't have my computer with me, and if i'm not freezing cold, then yeah!

Elvis The Fat Years
10-02-2006, 03:46 PM
what do make of this? you think ill do time??

WMSROX67579: who is this
WMSROX67579: ????????????????????????????????????????????
Im Not OK: abe
WMSROX67579: abe?
WMSROX67579: not ruthi
Im Not OK: shes here
WMSROX67579: ur not ruthi
Im Not OK: i know. shes sitting next to me
WMSROX67579: oh is she
WMSROX67579: no shes not
WMSROX67579: u pretend to be her
WMSROX67579: ruthie
Im Not OK: she said you should go away
WMSROX67579: let me talk to her
WMSROX67579: i kno its not her
WMSROX67579: i asked the real ruthi,
WMSROX67579: and she sed that this persons a fake
WMSROX67579: her real sn is imnotokmcr16
Im Not OK: lol what a gay name
WMSROX67579: what
Im Not OK: right!
Im Not OK: ilu
WMSROX67579: who is this
Im Not OK: abe froman
WMSROX67579: why do you pretend to be ruthie
Im Not OK: i pretend to be everyone
WMSROX67579: why
WMSROX67579: your so stupid
WMSROX67579: im not ok
WMSROX67579: is her reel sn
WMSROX67579: so u made this to pretend to be her
WMSROX67579: u kno that
WMSROX67579: if sum1 called 911, and showed them this, youd ow alot of money
Im Not OK: well fuck me runnin
Im Not OK: you wouldn't really call the police would you?
WMSROX67579: maybe
Im Not OK: oh my gawd!!
Im Not OK: im soooo sorry about this
WMSROX67579: ya you should be
WMSROX67579: your an impersonator
WMSROX67579: who are you
WMSROX67579: duz she kno you
Im Not OK: fuck off
WMSROX67579: 911
WMSROX67579: is just a call away
Im Not OK: 666
WMSROX67579: ya that too
WMSROX67579: now do u kno her
Im Not OK: i said fuck off
WMSROX67579: what happend to im soo sry
Im Not OK: lol you stupid fuck you really think the cops would so something?
WMSROX67579: impersonator
WMSROX67579: sew
WMSROX67579: ya
Im Not OK: you're the dumb fuck who doesn't know their friends SN.
WMSROX67579: and u should learn how to use your swares right
Im Not OK: you're the one bothering me
WMSROX67579: ure the impersonator
Im Not OK: you're the asshole
WMSROX67579: lets see,, duz the person who asked the impersonator is he impersoantes get in trouble, or duz the impersonator get in truble
WMSROX67579: hmm
WMSROX67579: tuff 1
WMSROX67579: 1 sware used right
WMSROX67579: good 4 u
WMSROX67579: 2 bad it duznt affend me
Im Not OK: its offend you stupid fuck
WMSROX67579: what do you think ruthie would say to all this
Im Not OK: i dont give a fuck. fuck her
Auto response from WMSROX67579: I am away from my computer right now.

waltermcphilp
10-02-2006, 03:47 PM
do you like making love at midnight?

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 03:54 PM
elvis: i think that i haven't been using the english language correcty

waltermcphilip: sometimes

Geek USA
10-02-2006, 03:56 PM
DO YOU LIKE MAKING LOVE AT MIDNIGHT?!

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 03:57 PM
sometimes

waltermcphilp
10-02-2006, 04:03 PM
elvis: i think that i haven't been using the english language correcty

waltermcphilip: sometimes


haha i initially read this as a conversation between me and elvis, i was rather confused

Grumble
10-02-2006, 04:21 PM
that's pretty much what happens on myspace.

I thought the whole internet was going to slow down because of the staggering amount of traffic to my page. :( It hasn't happened yet.

Does anyone want to be my myspace friend?

waltermcphilp
10-02-2006, 04:24 PM
sure why not, link me up

Grumble
10-02-2006, 04:34 PM
I've pm'ed it to you. I can't be too inviting.

waltermcphilp
10-02-2006, 04:44 PM
done and done

Rockin' Cherub
10-02-2006, 04:53 PM
what do you like best about Rockin' Cherub

Grumble
10-02-2006, 04:53 PM
Hey, I've got a friend! Who else wants to take advantage of this magical opportunity?

Luke de Spa
10-02-2006, 04:54 PM
1) say i were to obtain a first-class honours degree in commerce/finance from a top-tier institution of learning and somehow found myself in san francisco working at visa in their interchange department. would you be my partner in crime?

2) you once mentioned that you did some crazy stuff as a kid. so why did you leap overboard from the decks of the ss g-lau all those years ago?

Grumble
10-02-2006, 04:55 PM
Hey, I've got a friend! Who else wants to take advantage of this magical opportunity?

PM me if you do, so I don't have to hijack this thread with my pathetic quest to gain some myspace friends.

Toby
10-02-2006, 05:00 PM
what is your opinon of weird al

Dead
10-02-2006, 05:02 PM
What is your pant size?

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 05:03 PM
what do you like best about Rockin' Cherub

the way you buy into the punk mentality. ... no - probably the way that your posts make you sound like an intelligent, humorous, jaded guy in your mid twenties

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 05:04 PM
1) say i were to obtain a first-class honours degree in commerce/finance from a top-tier institution of learning and somehow found myself in san francisco working at visa in their interchange department. would you be my partner in crime?

2) you once mentioned that you did some crazy stuff as a kid. so why did you leap overboard from the decks of the ss g-lau all those years ago?


1) you bet i would

2) <i>because i could!!!</i>

see: melancholia/jenn's husband for reference

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 05:05 PM
What is your pant size?


depends on the make.. i have a pair that is 31 waist and fits comfortably, and i have other pants where 33 is the only size that fit correctly. length is generally 32

Dead
10-02-2006, 05:06 PM
Oh shit I need to start working out again. :(

Rockin' Cherub
10-02-2006, 05:08 PM
all those years. wasted.

Luke de Spa
10-02-2006, 05:08 PM
1) you bet i would
just to clarify, i meant white collar crime. although partying could be indicated

2) <i>because i could!!!</i>

see: melancholia/jenn's husband for reference
whoa, now there's a guy who just takes and does whatever he wants

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 05:08 PM
what is your opinon of weird al


i don't come across him very frequently, less than once a year, but when i do, i am greatly amused. the way it seems to me, he's not the kind of guy about whom you'd want to go around proclaiming your fandom, but i still think he's very entertaining in small doses

Toby
10-02-2006, 05:15 PM
you should check out his song 'white and nerdy'

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wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 05:16 PM
i already have, thanks!

ohnoitsbonnie
10-02-2006, 05:21 PM
what is your favorite color?

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 05:22 PM
i can't say that i truly have one. i do enjoy a nice clean white though

Rockin' Cherub
10-02-2006, 05:26 PM
what colour of big horse hung do you prefer

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 05:27 PM
*sigh* those were some of my favorite threads. definitely white

Rockin' Cherub
10-02-2006, 05:30 PM
so what kind of swinging dick is the best

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 05:31 PM
not not big

Trotskilicious
10-02-2006, 05:34 PM
the theory was that people with higher incomes places a higher value on choice in this situation, meaning they got more upset if i took away their pen, whereas people with lower incomes saw a pen as a pen and were cool with getting a free pen. it totally sucked.

Did you ever find out what the study's findings were? I'd like to think people think a pen is a pen no matter the income bracket.

Lollipop
10-02-2006, 05:36 PM
Would you rather kill and eat your own dog or an unborn fetus?

-If you don't have a dog, pretend that you do.

Dead
10-02-2006, 05:41 PM
that's easy, fetus. Anyone who says different is an unfeeling bastard.

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 05:41 PM
i wrote a reply to trots and it got eaten by the NEW server... the data did support her theory, though not overwhelmingly so..

---

then i went on to complain that the job was bad enough because i was approaching people about a fake marketing survey in parking lots, but worse when i had to try to intentionally get them irritated by cancelling their choice and replacing their pen. it was all kind of lame

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 05:43 PM
uh.. fetus i guess, because i'd choose the fetus when it was super small. i don't have a dog, but if i did, i'd imagine it'd be larger than a tiny tiny fetus

Irridescent Fairysex
10-02-2006, 05:45 PM
beware, you might be turning to the krazee side.

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 05:46 PM
i don't particularly want to do either, i think we're safe

Irridescent Fairysex
10-02-2006, 05:46 PM
What has been your most pleasent sexual encounter?

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 05:47 PM
hmm. that's not something i want to go into detail about here, but it must have been roughly 5 years ago.

Rockin' Cherub
10-02-2006, 05:47 PM
yeah, i sense the krazee side of power

Lollipop
10-02-2006, 05:48 PM
Thanks for answering. I needed help choosing what to order for dinner tonight.

alisonmonster
10-02-2006, 06:06 PM
Thanks for answering. I needed help choosing what to order for dinner tonight.

baby food?

spring
10-02-2006, 06:32 PM
do you love me? :)

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 06:54 PM
'fond of' would probably be a better way to put it

Mariner
10-02-2006, 07:56 PM
elvis: i think that i haven't been using the english language correcty


was that on purpose?

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 07:58 PM
no :o

dean_r_koontz
10-02-2006, 10:12 PM
everyone hates me here in my new town, what can i do?

cyklone
10-02-2006, 10:19 PM
I think my best friend's girlfriend and her best friend (also my ex) is hitting on me... What could I do (subtly) to find out?

Mariner
10-02-2006, 10:23 PM
it involves a copy of hooked on phonics and your mom's assless chaps

cyklone
10-02-2006, 10:28 PM
Of course.. I'll just snap on the chaps, go to them and be all "What do you think?" and showcase my most awesome fashion statement. Then in awe, the will inexplicably tell me that they do/do not like me with the compliment of the chaps... This reminds me though.. the chaps would be WAY too big for me...

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 10:37 PM
everyone hates me here in my new town, what can i do?


i have a very hard time imagining someone hating dean_r_koontz

Mariner
10-02-2006, 10:37 PM
Then in awe, the will inexplicably tell me that they do/do not like me with the compliment of the chaps...


someone missed the first part of the joke

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 10:37 PM
I think my best friend's girlfriend and her best friend (also my ex) is hitting on me... What could I do (subtly) to find out?

how about you do nothing and see if she does or does not hit on you

bardy
10-02-2006, 10:54 PM
how would you suggest dealing with someone who has a much lower sex drive. there would theoretically be a compromise but who wants to have sex with someone who isnt really excited about it?

Mariner
10-02-2006, 10:59 PM
hey whatcolor, how rugged are things lately?

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 11:03 PM
how would you suggest dealing with someone who has a much lower sex drive. there would theoretically be a compromise but who wants to have sex with someone who isnt really excited about it?


ouch, i had very little to no success wth ths issue, at least in the long run. if they're healthy and not stressed (aka, major factors that lower sex drive are not present), then sometimes it just is what it is. there's the lovey dovey attitude that says the person if they care about you will want to make sure your needs are met and they'll get a little creative or whatever, but fuck that. stress, depression, lack of sleep or exercise, etc. are pretty big factors, get the mopey fag to run a little


edit: nice fucking server pakula, this is pathetic

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 11:04 PM
hey whatcolor, how rugged are things lately?


pretty rugged man, how about you? let's catch up on aim sometime yeah?

bardy
10-02-2006, 11:06 PM
ouch, i had very little to no success wth ths issue, at least in the long run. if they're healthy and not stressed (aka, major factors that lower sex drive are not present), then sometimes it just is what it is. there's the lovey dovey attitude that says the person if they care about you will want to make sure your needs are met and they'll get a little creative or whatever, but fuck that. stress, depression, lack of sleep or exercise, etc. are pretty big factors, get the mopey fag to run a little


edit: nice fucking server pakula, this is pathetic

thanks man! I was trying to edit to ask if you thought an age difference could be an influence. i.e. I'm early 20's, he's late 20's. I'm not sure how guys age in that respect. He's attentive and more than nice enough, he just is pretty indifferent about the physical stuff. I always have to be the agressor, which is fine if it's not all the time.

yo soy el mejor
10-02-2006, 11:08 PM
depends on the make.. i have a pair that is 31 waist and fits comfortably, and i have other pants where 33 is the only size that fit correctly. length is generally 32
you're a tiny little thing. :)

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 11:21 PM
thanks man! I was trying to edit to ask if you thought an age difference could be an influence. i.e. I'm early 20's, he's late 20's. I'm not sure how guys age in that respect. He's attentive and more than nice enough, he just is pretty indifferent about the physical stuff. I always have to be the agressor, which is fine if it's not all the time.


well, i think if age is a factor, it's his age, and not the age difference. a guy peaks somehwere between 18-22, i don't remember where. so by late twenties, even the most virile are experiencng somewhat of a decline. they may have more stamina, but the urges aren't quite as frequent.. but as for you, you're not really at an age where sex drive is all that high for a female, generally speaking. i mean sure there's the slut factor with a lot of early twenties girls, and the excitement of being on their own, etc. but statistically speaking, females have their highest drive somewhere in their thirties. so it could be there's a mismatch regardless. is he a shy person? catholic/other religious upbringing? those factors can cause a fella to repress, or not act on his urges sometimes. i don't really know what to tell you, but im sure you can figure it out

bardy
10-02-2006, 11:22 PM
thanks man, I appreciate it! It's not that huge of a deal, I just wanted another opinion.

yo soy el mejor
10-02-2006, 11:23 PM
an ex-convict today asked if he could take me shopping at neiman marcus. should i accept?

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 11:24 PM
if you want to allow him to feel he has a right to constantly be in contact with you, and probably have him feel like you owe him stuff, sure

neopryn
10-02-2006, 11:26 PM
1) What's with all the civil discourse between you and Brady?

2) If you could give one piece of advice to an aspiring boarder, what would it be?

yo soy el mejor
10-02-2006, 11:27 PM
do you realize it's "cute butt bouncing in the air"

yo soy el mejor
10-02-2006, 11:29 PM
btw, i told that man no thanks but he said he would look out for me in the future. D:

HE SAID I WAS BEAUTIFUL!

bardy
10-02-2006, 11:29 PM
what was he convicted for, just curious, not trying to answer your question

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 11:30 PM
1) What's with all the civil discourse between you and Brady?

2) If you could give one piece of advice to an aspiring boarder, what would it be?


1) i'm not sure, at a certain point i lose the ability to maintain genuine hostility.

2) i would super strongly suggest that they develop their real life first and foremost and maintain a balance between real life and boarding if they like boarding. i've gained a lot of perspective from boarding -- got a better idea of how to argue and how to insult, and have been exposed to some great humor, etc. which can be useful in real life. as for boarding-specific advice, i'd say do the opposite of floppy nono and others, which is to say, use your impression-creating posts sparingly. a well-placed quip here and there will generate a lot more goodwill than a flurry of shitty posts

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 11:30 PM
do you realize it's "cute butt bouncing in the air"


sht, thanks, i'll fix it

yo soy el mejor
10-02-2006, 11:30 PM
"conspiracy to commit crime".. something about a telephone and maybe "the mafia".

Irridescent Fairysex
10-02-2006, 11:31 PM
Do you sabotage yourself sometimes? Can you be comfortable with happiness?

bardy
10-02-2006, 11:31 PM
oh well at least it doesnt involve stalking/murder/rape/etc

wHATcOLOR
10-02-2006, 11:50 PM
Do you sabotage yourself sometimes? Can you be comfortable with happiness?

all the time i sabotage myself. literally all the time. if someone had asked me to describe my personality and behavoir, i never would have come up wiht that on my own though. sometimes i don't even recognize it until i'm doing a post-mortem analysis of a given situation. if i luck out, a friend will insist i do the opposite of what i'm doing, and if i listen, it generally turns out real well. its probably the most consistent theme for me these days. most often it is just passing up opportunities, and/or not putting myself out there/extending myself. sometimes it is literally poor performance or basically extreme procrastination. sometimes it is relationship wise, whereby i refuse to give something a chance

and i really don't think i can be comfortable with certain kinds of happiness. i've been thinking about it a lot lately. i can be comfortable with professional success (and could stand to have a lot more, im past due). i can be comfortable with social happiness, and by that i mean being out wth people i am affiliated with, often only loosely, and laughing so hard. those are probalby my favorite moments these days, when certain personalties generate so much excitement.

but i know that right now i am absolutely unable to be comfortable being happy with a person that i'd be close to. like, girls, specifically. i literally cannot get myself to accept deep down that its going to last. i feel like the moment i give in and let myself be happy, im fucked. it is literally one of the most terrifying things to me, to put your trust in someone, and if i look at it strictly from a logical standpoint, i cannot justify it.

i dunno if you were randomly asking questions or if you were on to something specific, but if its the latter, that's quite insightful, cause i haven't really explicitly addressed those thngs, even with myself

spring
10-03-2006, 12:20 AM
all the time i sabotage myself. literally all the time. if someone had asked me to describe my personality and behavoir, i never would have come up wiht that on my own though. sometimes i don't even recognize it until i'm doing a post-mortem analysis of a given situation. if i luck out, a friend will insist i do the opposite of what i'm doing, and if i listen, it generally turns out real well. its probably the most consistent theme for me these days. most often it is just passing up opportunities, and/or not putting myself out there/extending myself. sometimes it is literally poor performance or basically extreme procrastination. sometimes it is relationship wise, whereby i refuse to give something a chance

and i really don't think i can be comfortable with certain kinds of happiness. i've been thinking about it a lot lately. i can be comfortable with professional success (and could stand to have a lot more, im past due). i can be comfortable with social happiness, and by that i mean being out wth people i am affiliated with, often only loosely, and laughing so hard. those are probalby my favorite moments these days, when certain personalties generate so much excitement.

but i know that right now i am absolutely unable to be comfortable being happy with a person that i'd be close to. like, girls, specifically. i literally cannot get myself to accept deep down that its going to last. i feel like the moment i give in and let myself be happy, im fucked. it is literally one of the most terrifying things to me, to put your trust in someone, and if i look at it strictly from a logical standpoint, i cannot justify it.

i dunno if you were randomly asking questions or if you were on to something specific, but if its the latter, that's quite insightful, cause i haven't really explicitly addressed those thngs, even with myself


well, i think it's amazing that you can articulate all these thoughts so well. i think i've definitely sabotaged myself once too many times, but at the same time, i think you identified the issue of trust as the hardest one to deal with. and that's something i don't know how to start to deal wiht for myself, and so...i have nothing of substance to contribute.

it's a risk to trust someone and more often than not it blows up in your face because everyone has their own agenda, no matter how genuine and honest they may (appear to) be. that whole selfless giving is such bullshit.

where i'd start if i were you, would be to try to trust yourself. try to take decisions, weigh them carefully and then when you choose the best option for you, support it, nourish it, love it. you know, the whole love yourself thing.

we're all too self-destructive for our own good. :( but...maybe we can work on that, or something.

wHATcOLOR
10-03-2006, 12:26 AM
i got ya. i suppose one of my biggest issues wth trust is juts the simple fact that people change. i was wiht someone who was entirely worthy of trust at the time i made the decision to hand over the trust, and somewhere along the line, she changed. and so then you start to look around you and see if this was a unique case, or something that actually happens a lot, and it sure seems to be the latter. and so recently, there is someone who is probably more deserving of trust than anyone i know, and i just coudln't stomach the idea of that specific aspect (trustworthiness) of her changing somewhere down the line.. the fall is so much harder, right?

like, recnetly its kind of baked into my epxectatons that someone will cheat, i juts expect it. and so big deal if they do, i saw it comng anyway. but that doesn't really lead you to happiness, not by a long shot

spring
10-03-2006, 12:39 AM
no it doesn't. but see, after every relationship that ended i felt like burning that piece of my soul that i had shared with that person. i just wanted ashes that could be scooped out, and then i'd be hollow and in time grow back into myself.

i don't think it has to be that hard though.

right now i'm happy, i'm actually in love, i've fallen, and i ache and i cry but more than anything i love and i want to fight for this. the thing is, i went into this relationship with no expectations, i was too hurt and too hollow to actually try to even feel anything at the beginning. but the night i met what's his name, i remember very clearly telling my friend that it was so good to actually like someone. and i couldn't remember the last time i'd felt that (which is pretty pathetic, I know).

now i'm seriously thinking i should've posted this on F9 or sent a PM to you, but what the hell.

what i'm trying to say is that, once you have no expectations, once you're ready to let go and enjoy the moment, the company, and you stop thinking so much, then it all gets so much easier. or at least it feels that way to me. life's hard enough, we don't have to complicate it even more. :)

wHATcOLOR
10-03-2006, 12:44 AM
lol@"what's his name"

i'm cool if you want to 'del' this, since it's rather open

but i'll say the last paragraph is pretty much the ideal state where i'd like to land

Irridescent Fairysex
10-03-2006, 01:59 AM
thanks for your long and thoughtful answer j, I did not ask randomly, I just thought it would be fitting and I was thinking about those questions with myself.

wHATcOLOR
10-03-2006, 02:00 AM
are you comfortable with the happiness of babes, bro?

Irridescent Fairysex
10-03-2006, 02:01 AM
not even when I pay for the babes, dude.

Dead
10-03-2006, 02:12 AM
I'm writing all of this down. When I'm ready, I hope to one day apply it to my own life.

wHATcOLOR
10-03-2006, 02:14 AM
not even when I pay for the babes, dude.


well maybe in the months/years ahead we can figure some of it out

benjamin619
10-03-2006, 02:18 AM
wHATcOLOR: For what reasons is it acceptable to cut someone out of your life?

wHATcOLOR
10-03-2006, 02:32 AM
i'm hitting the hay after benjamin's, but i'll happily answer any others tomorrow..

i can think of several reasons, and they mostly fall under the umbrella of "when having them n your life is severely impacting your safety and or health and/or ability to function healthily"

it is my tendency to try to 'cut people out of my life' rather than make amends, because in such cases i'm usually reacting emotionally and it's my lame passive way to get revenge, but i think its important to recognize the wisdom behind people saying that you shouldn't burn bridges. in cases of a disagreement, fight, theft, betrayal, etc. i guess its most honorable to establish what the problem is, resolve it if possible, adn then go your separate ways...

family is a tricky one. i haven't had the need to cut a family member out of my life, but i imagine there are situations where its the best option, and i suspect the majority of those cases involve abuse

as for breakups, i've found that it's the most effective way for me to recover. more accurately, i find it near impossible to move on without cutting that person out of my life. but that's pretty harsh. harsh, but acceptable, i guess. i'm currently 'cut out' of someone's to the extent they can, and i'm respecting it, but it sucks.

if someone steals shit from you or fights you, i guess after things are settled, you can just part ways...

in a professional setting, it's probably not a preferred reaction at all.

that's pretty rambling, if you have a more specific situation, i could give you my opinion..

Dead
10-03-2006, 02:36 AM
I don't think that's harsh, you gotta do what you gotta do. No sense in making yourself miserable for the sake of the 'let's stay friends' notion.

wHATcOLOR
10-03-2006, 02:40 AM
right right, i agree, it's most often a necessity, at least for me. i'm just making a (rather obvious and therefore probably unnecessary) distinction between a serious situation like that and a less serious one where say your brother's friend picks on you or somethng. then it'd just be lame to cut them out of your life, that'd be making a big deal out of something you can just either deal wth or brush off as insignificant

Nimrod's Son
10-03-2006, 02:42 AM
i made plans on saturday night to go to the casino last night. When i told my girlf about it she flipped out because she hadn't seen me since friday morning. i told her i wasn't backing out because i wouldn't want any of my friends backing out on me. She said she didn't give a fuck and should choose her over my friends, but i still chose the casino anyway.

was i in the wrong? because she pretty much hates me now
this type of stuff happens every weekend

girl needs some help with her self esteem

benjamin619
10-03-2006, 03:30 AM
thanks wHAT and Dead. Not easy, but hopefully for the best.

teh b0lly!!1
10-03-2006, 08:57 AM
so the depression\love\hidden happiness has been talked to tdeath in this thread already..
but still, when you find yourself very very depressed from a time to time - you know, as in, even when things are rugged, you just wake up some days and it hits you like ten times harder - what causes it most of the time?
and how do you recover\respond to those moments? (recover isnt very accurate because not always you really do 'recover')

dean_r_koontz
10-03-2006, 09:11 AM
it's caused by a change in the way electrical impulses and messanger molecules works compared to when you felt better.

spring
10-03-2006, 09:24 AM
so the depression\love\hidden happiness has been talked to tdeath in this thread already..
but still, when you find yourself very very depressed from a time to time - you know, as in, even when things are rugged, you just wake up some days and it hits you like ten times harder - what causes it most of the time?
and how do you recover\respond to those moments? (recover isnt very accurate because not always you really do 'recover')

i think it hits harder because things add up. and that's when you need to simplify. that's why people who can still watch cartoons at our age (giving the 25 and over ballpark here) can be happy and still laugh at things like that.

to recover, respond, like i said...simplify. try to find something easy that you like. it can even be as easy as going out for breakfast, having someone make that for you, if you feel like you just can't do it yourself.

for me, cd stores are also good, but you have to be careful, say you'll only buy one CD, and one you've never heard before, so it doesn't remind you of anything shitty that might have happened to you in the past.

here i go with my ramblings...sorry about that. i have to run to do my blood tests anyway.


have a good day, kids.

dean_r_koontz
10-03-2006, 09:26 AM
i've already answered his question spring, that's not very polite.

dean_r_koontz
10-03-2006, 09:29 AM
you don't find yourself very depressed from time to time like: "i feel a bit down from time to time and stay home from school a day or two".. if you're very depressed, it's a serious, debilitating situation which problaly leads to hospitalisation or at least a severe lack of ability to function normally.

teh b0lly!!1
10-03-2006, 11:57 AM
i should be drugged and in a padded cell then :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

wHATcOLOR
10-03-2006, 12:00 PM
what causes it for me is when i let things slide. i.e., i'm not eating properly, not getting enough sleep, not making the effort to interact wtih people periodically, not exercising. basically if i withdraw..

what i do to change it is try to get back into a routine.. its difficult because i'm in that transition phase between bucking routine in my teens and early twenties to eventually becoming real disciplined with a routines in order to function..

teh b0lly!!1
10-03-2006, 12:06 PM
strangely, your causes are my responses

Dead
10-03-2006, 12:11 PM
right right, i agree, it's most often a necessity, at least for me. i'm just making a (rather obvious and therefore probably unnecessary) distinction between a serious situation like that and a less serious one where say your brother's friend picks on you or somethng. then it'd just be lame to cut them out of your life, that'd be making a big deal out of something you can just either deal wth or brush off as insignificant
Absolutely. I was just saying that in the relationship context it's not harsh at all. It can be a necessity as you said.
thanks wHAT and Dead. Not easy, but hopefully for the best.
Yeah not easy, took me 3 tries. She kept coming back! But I'm going on 3 years now, I'm a real success story. :rolleyes:

Dead
10-03-2006, 12:13 PM
here i go with my ramblings...sorry about that. i have to run to do my blood tests anyway.
Your ramblings are better than 99% of the crap in this forum. Keep up the good work. http://forums.netphoria.org/wwwboard/icons/icon14.gif

dean_r_koontz
10-03-2006, 12:17 PM
i'm almost to embarrassed to ask but ok... dead, have you ever attempted to stick one of your action figures up your ass?

murgle
10-03-2006, 12:32 PM
I'm debating skipping class today. Only one professor out of the three classes I have this afternoon actually takes roll. I had exams in two of those classes on Thursday, so there's no way that the tests are going to be back and graded.

I'm scheduled to have class til 5, then I have to drive like a bat out of hell to get to work by 5.45... then I work til about 11.

Should I skip class?

cyklone
10-03-2006, 05:07 PM
someone missed the first part of the joke

I couldn't tell if you were talking about the episode of South Park properly entitled "Hooked On Monkey Phonics" or just regular phonics..

mistle
10-03-2006, 05:11 PM
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Dead
10-03-2006, 05:13 PM
so what happened to murgle? i bet there was no skippage.

murgle
10-03-2006, 05:29 PM
oh there was skippage.

wHATcOLOR
10-03-2006, 05:31 PM
man, i should have been monitoring this thread! i'm anti-skip

murgle
10-03-2006, 05:33 PM
You shoulda told me, J! I might've gone to class.

spring
10-03-2006, 05:44 PM
nah, J's actually pro skip, he just doesn't know it yet ;)

avian chaos
10-03-2006, 05:51 PM
FREE BIRD

teh b0lly!!1
10-03-2006, 05:52 PM
your avatar is hard to watch, avian :(

avian chaos
10-03-2006, 05:52 PM
Your ramblings are better than 99% of the crap in this forum. Keep up the good work. http://forums.netphoria.org/wwwboard/icons/icon14.gif
Unlike you, whose posts altogether are 99% crap.

avian chaos
10-03-2006, 05:52 PM
Did I say 99? I meant 100

Dead
10-03-2006, 06:09 PM
That was sweet of you. :(

Luke de Spa
10-03-2006, 06:14 PM
dead

Dead
10-03-2006, 06:15 PM
so clever

Luke de Spa
10-03-2006, 06:19 PM
that was sweet of you ऴ˛…¸ऴ

Dead
10-03-2006, 06:20 PM
aw snap

Luke de Spa
10-03-2006, 06:21 PM
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into your soul

obscured01
10-03-2006, 06:43 PM
<font color="dab9ea">1. How often to you exercise, and what kind do you do?

2. What university did you go to?

This is a really awesome thread.
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wHATcOLOR
10-03-2006, 06:57 PM
<font color="dab9ea">1. How often to you exercise, and what kind do you do?

2. What university did you go to?

This is a really awesome thread.
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1. i've not been able to maintain a routine for longer than 3-4 months since leaving highschool. at best, in my 3-4 month stints it'll be 5 days a week, but more often 3. i'm just starting to get back into exercising as of two weeks ago and i've been only able to do 2x a week. i'm shooting for 3x a week this week. it's a combination of a few things that limits my exercising,m ostly time spent at work. but i really could be more efficient and disciplined if i applied myself.

right now i'm doing walking (how weak!) on a treadmill, followed by light weights. i have a knee problem where i can't run at all, so i'm trying to take it easy. once i'm back in shape, i'll get more serious about the weights.

2. duke university. if i had put any thought into it, or knew anything about it, i probably woudln't have gone there.. as it was, i didn't want to go to college (depressed, etc. and was making good money with a landscaping company i had).. but my mom was like 'i never ask you for anything, but i'm asking you not to waste this opportunity. apply to at least one college, it's all im asking you for' and so like a little brat, i said 'fine, where should i apply' and she said 'that's not up to me, its up to you'. and i turned on the tv and duke was on espn and i said how about duke, and she said i'd be lucky if i could get in there, so that's the one place i sent my app. and somehow they let me in, and i grew up just ever so slightly enough to decide to go in the fall. i probably would have been better off waiting a year, i wasn't ready for it and had a hard time, but it all worked out i suppose, aside from the fact that i only have maybe 2 or 3 friends from those entire 4 years, and i've only seen each of them once in the 4 years since i've been out.

spring
10-03-2006, 11:54 PM
hey, i never knew this story, of how you ended up going to Duke. :(

it's pretty sad, really. reminds me a bit too much of how i wanted to take a year off after highschool and how i completely fucked up that chance without realizing it. but hey, that's the ask spring thread, or not even.

Dead
10-03-2006, 11:58 PM
That kind of talk should be directed toward the 8 mile moment thread.

benjamin619
10-04-2006, 12:50 AM
that's pretty rambling, if you have a more specific situation, i could give you my opinion..

I now have a more specific situation.

Uhhh ... with regard to drugs and alcohol. These things are (arguably) fine when used in social settings, to be with people. But when it appears that substances mean more to somebody than I mean to them, when somebody doesn't make time for me, because they'd rather be intoxicated ... And that hurts, of course it does ... is that reason enough to get rid of them? I keep waiting, and forgiving in my mind, and trying to find a way, but should I?

Dead
10-04-2006, 01:01 AM
Dude are you the guy from efnet?

benjamin619
10-04-2006, 01:09 AM
nah. i don't know what efnet is, but i would tell you if i was him. it sounds like maybe you should give him my email.

Dead
10-04-2006, 01:16 AM
Oh. Well I don't want to disclose anything but the poor guy is with some addict who is sucking him dry and won't give it up and he's practically going broke supporting her and her family and her habit. How many times have I told him to get out but he doesn't. I can't really help you out with that except to say Get out!

Sorry for hijacking whatcolor's thread for a few minutes.

wHATcOLOR
10-04-2006, 02:37 AM
I now have a more specific situation.

Uhhh ... with regard to drugs and alcohol. These things are (arguably) fine when used in social settings, to be with people. But when it appears that substances mean more to somebody than I mean to them, when somebody doesn't make time for me, because they'd rather be intoxicated ... And that hurts, of course it does ... is that reason enough to get rid of them? I keep waiting, and forgiving in my mind, and trying to find a way, but should I?

yeah fuck that man. i basically lost my best friend (had been best friends from before kindergarden through tenth grade) over something similar. he just preferred getting fucked up each day (with my older brother) and i didn't want to do that except for a little drinking on weekends, so we pretty much just stopped hanging out/speaking. i don't regret it, the guy's a loser these days.

i think its sticky when it becomes an either/or (me/drugs), since ultimatims are for the birds.. i think its more of a compatibility thing. if its hurting, just take the space you need, and if necessary, you can let them know if they need help they can call on you. gotta look out for your own sanity/health first

wHATcOLOR
10-04-2006, 02:42 AM
HEY GUYS LETS FUCK EACHOTHER

wHATcOLOR
10-04-2006, 02:42 AM
sound good?

Dead
10-04-2006, 02:44 AM
I didn't interrupt ya that time bro. So what drinking game are we playing this weekend?